I don't know what it is about the spring that makes me feel like I need to adjust my philosophy on dating.
It was at about this same time last year that I made two dating decisions. The first was to date more just for the sake of dating. This was because I felt I was an inexperienced dater, having spent the last seven years of my life in higher educational environments where no one dates, they just hook-up. The second was to go on more second dates. This was because I felt I was nixing guys too quickly and not giving them a fair chance.
Now I was pretty good at doing both of these. The first decision meant that if you asked me out and you were a boy and you didn't have horns growing out of your head, you had about a 90% chance that I would go out on a first date with you. And the second decision meant that if you asked me out and you were a boy and you didn't have horns growing out of your head, you had about an 80% chance that I would go out on two dates with you (though, I suspect these odds have now been greatly decreased given my last two first dates).
So this week, I met someone new. We had fun. And by fun, I mean that we made out at the bar. Clearly one of my finer moments. I told some of my girlfriends about him, and their first question was, "So? Potential?" They probably meant, "Potential date?" But in my mind, the question "Potential?" is merely short for "Potential boyfriend?" So of course, I started thinking and obsessing about whether or not there was potential with this totally random guy who I hardly knew and who I made out with at a bar (!) before I had smack myself back to reality. Was I really just wondering if someone I met at a bar and made out with could be a potential boyfriend? Why, oh why, do I always have to be obsessed with whether or not someone is the one?
So enter my 2010 spring dating philosophy resolution. I want to enjoy things for what they are. Worry less about where something is going. Enjoy things as they are happening. Agonize less about whether I should call someone and just do it. Stop trying to see every guy I meet as a potential boyfriend. Oh and stop making out with boys at bars.