So a while back, I met a guy at a friend's birthday party. We chatted for a while and then towards the end of the night, he asked me for my BlackBerry Messenger pin. My BlackBerry Messenger pin. For those of you who are not blessed/cursed with a BlackBerry, BlackBerry Messenger, or BBM, is basically just AIM/gchat on your BlackBerry. Except that you can tell (a) if your message was sent, (b) if your message was delivered and (c) if your message was read. It's yet another way for people you work with to keep tabs on you since they can tell when you have read, but are ignoring, their messages. So, when this kid asked me for my BBM pin, I was pretty taken aback. I mean, I didn't even know what my pin was or how I would even go about finding my pin. Did I receive it in the mail? Did it come on a single sheet of paper with the warning: "IMPORTANT: Keep this separate from your ATM card"? So I just said, "Um, I don't know what my pin is." And then he took my BlackBerry from me and gave me a little tutorial. Weird, but whatever.
A few days later, within the 3-7 day window that all guys think they have to make contact, he sent me a message. We had a brief, inconclusive conversation. And when I say inconclusive, I mean that it is totally still a mystery to me whether he wanted to just say hi and chat about the weather or if he wanted to ask me out. Our conversation was probably 8 or 9 lines of small talk, and eventually I just didn't respond when I didn't have anything to respond with but a fake "ha ha." And there was no attempt at reviving the conversation on his part. So, much like the why-bother-to-ask-for-a-number-if-you're-not-going-to-call dilemma, there's the why-bother-to-make-contact-if-you're-not-going-to-ask-me-out mystery. Basically none of my guy friends could figure this one out, with the BBM factor thrown in there. Maybe he just wanted to be friends and didn't know how to say "let's hang out" without making it sound like a date. I'll never know.
And then, not long later, it happened again, just without the BBM factor. I met a guy at a friend's party (errr ironically, the same friend whose party I was at when I met Example #1), we chatted, I weaseled my way out of the quickly-turning-awkward conversation and disappeared. Then like an hour later, he resurfaced. He interrupts my conversation with two guys and asks for my number. (Can we say cock block?) And then of course I couldn't really say no, because now there were others around who would become witnesses to (a) this guy's humiliation and (b) my cold-heartedness. So I saved us both the trouble and just gave him my number. After all, it kind of did take some balls to come up to me while I was talking to two other guys. So, two days later, I get a random facebook friend add. From him. Who didn't know my last name. We exchanged a few texts but again, he never actually asked me out.
I didn't actually want to go out with either of these guys, but I am still totally puzzled by their behavior. I mean okay, there's a time for games and dilly-dallying and all but come on. Just cut to the chase already. Is that really so much to ask?